Need to vent

[Anonymous]

I don’t care that I am tired I don’t care that my back feels like a
thousand knives are twisting in it from ‘wearing him’ in his carrier
all day, I don’t care that I look like a mess.. I will do whatever it
takes for him to feel better. My mother said “Andrea you need a break”
I replied, “No Mom Noah needs a break from his pain, and if I can do
that by holding him all night I don’t care about me.” It makes me so
mad and I want to smack the next person that asks how I am doing. IT IS
NOT ABOUT ME! I am an adult Noah is three weeks old!!! I can deal with
the crap he shouldn’t have to! I swear that no one understands that I
don’t care about me right now. I want him to feel better that is the
only way I will be able to rest.

[Anonymous]

Do you have to wait until Fri to ask for a PPI? I would call today. Simply tell them that zantac is not working and you are at your wits end. Explain his symptoms and how they are worse, then kindly say “is there something that can stop acid production? A PPI maybe?” I think the sooner he starts, the better. It can take up to 2 weeks for it to really kick in, so if you can get prevacid, zegerid, nexium…any of them, you’ll want to keep him on zantac spaced 4 hrs apart from the PPI dose, otherwise it may seem like he’s not on anything at all. You probably know this from Laura’s intro thread as well as giving a PPI on an empty stomach, then feeding 30-60 mins later.

[Anonymous]

I agree with Jill it may only be 2 days but 2 days is a long time when you are dealing with a lo in pain. We suffered for 8-10 wks before we figured out what was going on and then it took until he was 14 wks to get him on a good enough dose of the prevacid and dh is a pharmacist so the sooner the better in my opinion that way you can start enjoying your little guy sooner rather than later.

[hellbennt]

FAX FAX FAX the dr

dont wait for a call…

start off w/ a THANK YOU

keep it short & sweet

stick to the facts (no feelings and no rambling emotions)

state current meds, doses, symptoms

make request- flat out- short & sweet

THANK AGAIN

follow up by calling office to say fax was sent

call again later to discuss requests in fax, ie: have you called in the increased prescription yet? THANK YOU

sample fax: https://www.infantreflux.org/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=10633&PID=90325#90325

[Anonymous]

Oh Andrea, I totally remember feeling the exact same way! I felt like I needed to do whatever I could to make my son feel better, and nothing else mattered. That’s what we momma’s do.

Looking back on it though, I really think that I should have accepted more help from friends and family and taken a break from my son for just a few minutes or so. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but hindsight being 20/20, I know that my feelings got so low and I was so upset for him and depressed that the situation was very unhealthy. NOw, I’m not suggesting that that is where you are. I just know where I was.

Hang in there. Try to let your mom wear him for a bit and take a walk around the block on your own, even for just a few minutes. You will be amazed at how regenerated you feel and more equipped to handle a screaming in pain baby.

Oh, and I agree with the others… contact that doctor and try to get him in sooner!!

Have you tried some Mylanta? Cherry Supreme. It will help coat his throat against the acid.

[Anonymous]

Now that you mention it Naomi, I am still hard headed when it comes to taking help from others but we have to do that every now and again just to keep our wits about us. Even if it is just for 15 min so you can take a hot relaxing shower… it is amazing how much better I always felt when I was able to take a long shower and get clean. He of course is your top priority right now but you gotta try and rest/relax some b/c they so easily pick up on that and so it can be difficult. I am naturally very high strung and I still now will get stressed out to the point that Cooper picks up on it and gets stressed himself. Sorry I am rambling. Try and take a few minutes for yourself if you can and I am sure it will make this a bit easier.

[Anonymous]

I am blessed that my husband is so hands on with this. More than once he has forced me to go take a nap or a walk. We are really tag teaming this thing and I feel more rested than I should I guess.

I did call the Dr last night, when they told me that I was being transfered to his head nurse I was worried. But after I told her what was going on I found out that she was the mother of two severe GERDlings herself!! She totally understood!! That made me feel so much better. I still have to wait till Fri but knowing my pediatricians head nurse knows what is going on is awesome. She even told me to call back last night “if I just needed to cry or talk”… wow:D

[Anonymous]

People just don’t get it. If you lo is OK then you will be OK. I kept telling EVERYONE this when they told me to go see someone for my PPD. My lo is doing alot better now (Maybe she is one of the lucky ones where her system just needed to mature a bit? She is still having some episodes but not nearly as much as before and she is a pretty happy baby now for the most part) and therefore so is Mommy. It is a pretty simple equation if you ask me.

But yes, I do agree that you need a break sometimes. Just to have some “me” time. I don’t have my Mom (she passed away ), if your Mom is there and she wants to help then let her help you. Besides you and your husband, she will love your lo like no one else.

ChristineLE242008-04-24 10:38:17

[Anonymous]

My new most hated phrase.. “fussy”.. My son is not fussy .. he is in pain.. there is a HUGE difference.

[Anonymous]

God, I HEAR YOU. My girl was classified as “fussy” for soooo long, “She doesn’t have reflux, put rice in her bottles” at 2 months old… at 4 months, I DEMANDED a drug, she was constantly upset, crying every time the reflux flared, and would only sit in her swing for comfort.

I agree with many other mothers on here…. sometimes its better to take a break. Sometimes your pains/frustrations/concerns are sensed by the baby, making matters even worse. I wish I had an outlet… I’m alone all week with 3 children. And kudos for all the supportive husbands out there!! Mine, unfortunately, is very fearful of babies, especially ours since she is so small and has issues. (And he gags at the sight of baby poop/vomit…) So he tends to the older children HAHA 🙂

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