infant psychiatry….

[Anonymous]

We’ve been pushing for both, but so far they’ve been refusing. We see the next GI at the end of March, so hopefully they’ll agree.

[hellbennt]

lori,

can you fax your GI and tell him that the psychatrist said it just might be something physical & so therefore can you please have the tests done before your appt. date so that at the actual appt the GI could review the results with you?

[Anonymous]

Lori,

I’m so sorry to hear about what happened at the psych eval. I just can’t believe it. I too have been very guilty of yelling at Alexis when she doesn’t eat, but she actually has no fear of me. You would think if Mom goes crazy she would chew and swallow just to shut me up but it is the direct opposite. I truly try very hard not to get frustrated but I am only human! DH and I have been in your shoes as well, where he believes I over-react to her and just letting her get to me. It is hard since I’m with her 24 hours/7 days a week with 3 feedings a day versus his possible weekend with her many he actually feeds her 2-3 meals. We have had mutliple heated discussions about it and he finally realized how hard it is on me to have a child that just doesn’t eat. I explain to him I truly need him on my side the most since I just can’t do it alone even a little support is much better than none. I hope after this experience your GI would do more testing and a speech/feeding therapy evaluation instead to get Hailey the help she needs. I am really tired of people looking at Alexis as well since she is growing fine and assuming that she has no eatting problems and that is it all in my head or I’m just forcing her to eat too much (because 1 chicken nugget is just way to much food for 1 day!) This forum has been my support system and it truly has been great for me.

[Anonymous]

Laura, I can guarantee you that I don’t need to call my ped to tell him what the psych said!!!! I think we got the appointment basically as a favour to our ped, because he’s on staff at the hospital, so needless to say, I’m sure the psych let him have it for referring such a nut job (me) and I’m sure that our ped is pretty ticked off. Anyhow, I don’t really care because I’m not going to let someone push us around for that reason, so I called the office again and left another message which still hasn’t been returned… I do expect to hear from him soon though, because I think they legally have to return your call within 48 hours. As for the fax machine, we were given “rules” to the office when we first were accepted as patients…one is that the fax is to be used only when okay’ed by nurse to avoid bogging things down I guess. We pay $100 a year to make calls to the nurse or to have the doc return calls, so I do feel like this should be done, especially in Hailey’s case. Our next ped appointment is not until the 9th of March, so it seems insane to me to have to go so long without anyone following Hailey- we currently don’t even have a ped GI so no one is literally following her.

Sue, thank you for the support. Yes, raising a non-eating refluxer can be very trying at times. I actually have never yelled at Hailey, and I made certain to try not to send any negative vibes around eating, but I certainly said many awful things in the earlier months-mainly at night time, when she did her ear shattering screaming, and in the wee hours of the morning when I was exhausted.

Hailey has been a tough baby, feeding issues aside- she used to scream and cry all day and night (literally) for many months, she needed to be held for 5 months all the time and you could never put her down, just leaving the house to go to somewhere new or having someone look at her would cause her to projectile puke everywhere, and I swear she never slept unless she was held, and NEVER napped, and still doesn’t nap to this day. Many days I actually had to hold her while I went to the bathroom…I know, disgusting!!! I still have to hold her for at least an hour after feeds (two hours at night before going down) because she’s uncomfortable. I told this to the psych when he asked about Hailey’s behaviour, and I try to explained that I think that she has a stressed out temperament and is obviously uncomfortable. He told me that her behaviour sounds “normal” because the majority of the fussiness stopped by 7 months.

I know this doesn’t justify the things I said because none of this is her fault, I guess that when things were at their worst, I was always teetering on the edge of my breaking point. I am very ashamed of it, but I do know that I have done my very best with her, and she is so attached to me- definitely a momma’s girl. She certainly isn’t afraid of me, and I also know that because I wasn’t yelling (just crying a lot, and saying many bad words) that she probably had no clue what I was saying…at least I hope. Thank you again for your support. This forum has also been my life saver.

I’m so sorry for another long winded post…I’ll try to keep the next ones short!

s&h’s mum2006-2-19 21:40:34

[Anonymous]

Lori,

Can you reschedule your Ped visit so you can get in sooner? Or what about going for occassional “weight checks”, without having to schedule an actual appt.? This way you could atleast see a nurse. I cant believe you actually have to pay $100 to get phone “privlages”? That really shocks me.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a scale at home that you could monitor her weight with? I bought one when Hailey was born for about $20. They have them on Ebay too. I did that because I hated going in to the doctor’s office for just a weight check. Too many germs!

[Anonymous]

I weigh her at home on our regular scale by subtracting my weight… not totally accurate but good enough. I don’t like going in for weight checks b/c Hailey goes bezerk at the office and pukes her feed everywhere (which defeats the purpose)… and yes Stacey, there are too many germs! Our doc prefers that as well b/c the office is so busy. That’s why it’s so frustrating when no one calls you back- it’s like out of sight, out of mind.

s&h’s mum2006-2-20 15:29:40

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