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Hi everyone,
I haven’t been around too much, but I still lurk around here and occasionally post when I have time. I am getting sooo depressed. Brodie was doing quite well with eating (almost 21 months old) until he had to have surgery March 1st for an undescended testicle. He couldn’t eat all day. (His surgery was at 1:15 pm) He really didn’t fuss too much which kind of surprised me and disappointed me, I figured he’d be starving. The surgery went well and he came out of it pretty well. He threw up apple juice in recovery from the anesthesia, no big deal. That evening he wanted pasta and milk, so I was happy and just went slow. He did well. He slept well and the next day was going pretty well too. He didn’t seem to be in too much pain, (he also had his circumcision repaired) and he was fairly happy. That evening he spiked a fever and refused dinner. Then he thrashed around all night, needless to say nobody got any sleep. After that, he has been eating almost nothing and refusing his bottless (Yes, he is still on bottles, despite my efforts to stop). I thought okay, he must not feel up to par yet, but now this is still going on and it is day 4. He is probably eating 1/2 of his normal amount and that is with a lot of work and distraction. He hasn’t had a fever for 24 hours, he has no infection. Could it be residual from the surgery? I am getting so depressed and crying. It is a chore to feed him and I dread it. He pushes everything away and shakes his head no, even for his favorites like grilled cheese and hot dog. He loves his bottles and will ask for it and then push it away or take an ounce and push it away. He had french toast and yogurt for breakfast this morning and then just threw everything up about an hour ago. I don’t understand why he would eat better right after the surgery, compared to now. I am just at my wit’s end and worried to death about him. As many of you have said, I too still dread feedings for the most part, because I wonder if he’s going to refuse or if he’s going to cough and gag and vomit. I can’t wait to go back to work tomorrow, but then I will worry that my sitter isn’t doing enough to try to feed him. Why is this so hard….
RLM426 2006-3-5 12:21:13 Robin, Kaelyn has been doing the same thing for the past month. Maybe it’s just something that they do around this age, and the surgery just kind of kick-started this phase for him. Either that, or both of us need to be worried, and I’m working really hard to convince myself that this is just a phase.
I don’t know if this will work with Brodie, but one of Kaelyn’s favorites lately is to feed us. Lots of times she’ll refuse to eat unless we allow her to feed us every other bite. She’ll hold up her food and wave it at us saying “bite” until we lean over and open our mouths. Then, we’ll tell her that it’s her turn and she’ll usually take a bite. Of course, she’s not eating as much as we’d like with this method, but I figure at least she’s eating something. She also has been boycotting the high chair. She refuses to eat if we put her in it. So, we have her in a booster chair at the regular table and that seems to have helped. Like you said, it is so frustrating to try to feed her only to have most of it hit the floor or stay on her plate while she screams “all done”. The saving grace for me is that she has been doing this for just over a month and she hasn’t lost any weight. Granted, she hasn’t gained any either, but at least she’s not losing! I hope that Brodie improves for you soon!Thanks Kim, Stacey and Marsha for your thoughts and input. Luckily, Brodie is doing better today and was eating better. Kim, I did put a booster seat at the dinner table after you mentioned it, what a great idea, I don’t know why I didn’t think of that before. I think although Brodie is turning the corner and feeling better, he is definielty becoming more independent and telling me what he wants and more often what he doesn’t want. I am not used to that, before he would pretty much eat whatever we gave him, or at least eat some part of it. Now if I take something out and he doesn’t want it, he shakes his head and says “no and pushes it away. Just wonderful! I guess this is all part of growing up, but…. I can’t say I am thrilled by it. All in all, as long as he eats something, I am happy. I had a friend recently tell me that all their son ate for weeks annd weeks was peanut butter and jelly and that his wife was freaking out thinking their child wasn’t getting all his nutrients, but they realized he was getting many nutrients between the bread and peanut butter, and he was eating! It makes me realize that almost all kids have some kind of eating issue at some point in their lives, I just think us reflux moms, automatically panic if our child doesn’t eat because it brings back painful memories that we don’t want to relive. Thanks for your support.
i don’t know if this helps, but my healthy 20 month old daughter has
recently decided that she doesn’t want to eat. i think it’s just
a phase that kids this age go through when they aren’t growing as
much. i hope. she seems to be doing fine, and every two or
three days she’ll cave in and eat something (even if it’s just a pile
of carrots, it’s something…) so i’m not too worried. besides,
with my little refluxer to deal with and my home business, i barely
have time to feed her let alone force her to eat. (not that i
wouldn’t if she needed it…) i think with the weather improving
and so much to do she just doesn’t want to eat. i am glad to hear
that brodie is eating better. my daughter had quite a reserve of
weight to draw upon so that probably helps too. i might have to
try the booster seat idea. thanks everyone!0oh, and about peanut butter, yeah, that’s the only “meat” lindy will
eat and it’s been that way for MONTHS and MONTHS. the
pediatrician said she’s growing fine and it’s normal for toddlers to be
picky. but i know what you mean about panicking, although she
didn’t have reflux, she had failure to thrive as a newborn, jaundice,
and refused to eat for the first four or five weeks. SO when she
started refusing everything but peanut butter i panicked. but
after we survived that, her current lack of desire to eat isn’t
panicking me. Maybe Allie’s struggles make Lindy’s look like a
cake walk…
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