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February 16, 2006 at 9:56 am #1656

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Well, I have been wanting to get out of the house and do some activites with Ryann. Decided to go to Gymboree play class yesterday. The three month old babies were bigger than my baby. My daughter doesn’t have any chuncka chuncka to pinch its so depressing. All the other moms were nice but seemed to pity me. They were all throwing their babies in the air and laying them down flat. When I tried to lay her down, she had a horrible gas episode and ended up balling. I left the place in tears. Feel like this is never going to end. She’s not gaining weight and getting bigger, so how could she possibly grow out of this! So frustrated , I thought things would be getting a little better by 6 months!

February 16, 2006 at 10:08 am #1659

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I also found these groups hard to attend sometimes. We had a ton of success with swimming class because all the children seemed more “equal” in the water.

I am sorry you had a rotton experience. I have been there and totally understand. We stuck to play dates with usually only one other child or did the swimming to get some interaction.

Hang in there! Hopefully others will have better suggestions….

Ann Marie

February 16, 2006 at 10:53 am #1669

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Hi Sarah,

I know what you mean. We went to playgroup with my 2 year old yesterday and there were 2 other babies right around Lauren’s age there. Anyway, the mom’s were sitting there feeding them with no problems..just eating away…and all I could think about was the screaming, crying, back arching feeds with Lauren that we are in the midst of right now I myself left in tears…thinking…this has to get better. So, please know that you are not alone…and in a year or 2 from now we will look back on this with a whole different outlook – and have a 2 year old running around like nothing ever happened.

Krista in Houston

February 16, 2006 at 7:25 pm #1720

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We had the same experience with a baby massage class. The instructor couldn’t comprehend why we wouldn’t lay her flat on her back. We finally did just to prove our point and she spit up everywhere and started screaming. She was 6 weeks older than the other babies in the class and looked so much younger. It was so frustrating!! The classes were part of a package that we’d already paid for, but we never went back.

Ann Marie has the right idea with swim classes. They were so much better for us. Plus, the age range was much bigger, so people just assumed that she was younger than she was.

February 17, 2006 at 8:10 am #1744

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The first (and last) class I ever took Hailey to was 3 months ago when she was around 5 months old. It was a mother goose nursery rhymes/song class. Things seemed to be going fine until Hailey starting fussing and one mum beside me chimed in “you can feed her she must be hungry” and all I could think was “yah, fat chance”. Then there was an hour break in between where everyone broke out their bottles/boobs and started feeding their babies while I sat there bewildered and depressed. I too left and burst into tears in the car, and we’ve never been to another class since.

Just yesterday at the mall, I watched a mother break out a bottle, pour in the powdered formula, shake, and pop in into her child’s gaping, open mouth to eat. I honestly stood there staring. I completely forgot what it looks like to feed a normal baby. I often feel like a mad scientist preparing hailey’s bottles- adding formula, then cereal, then corn syrup- stirring it all up- picking out the lumps with a spoon- then adding all the strange parts from the Dr. Brown’s bottle before heading up to our dark bedroom to start the dreaded feeding process.

Anyhow, I know how awful you feel. Please hang in there. I hold onto hope (pray) that one day soon things will get better for our little ones.

February 17, 2006 at 8:52 am #1746

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I understand completetly! I want to join a mommy group but i know it will be like all of you described. I feel like there should be special reflux baby groups. No one understands at all. People stare at me like you must be a bad mom if your baby screams all of the time!

February 17, 2006 at 5:12 pm #1780

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(babywearers are very understanding people, lol! where are you? I’ll help you find a local group…)

February 17, 2006 at 7:35 pm #1795

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Hey Laura, I am in the dfw area. (Dallas, Fort worth, Denton, but really close to towns called grapevine and southlake.. texas is huge!) I’ve tried to look it up before, but didn’t have time to follow through. Something that sounds very intesting.. having a local support group my get me out of my gloomy state. Thanks! Sarah

February 18, 2006 at 4:37 pm #1863

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there is a yahoo group that is DFW babywearing, and they have monthly meetings (usually in dallas area)

I can not imagine, Lauren and I talk about this often. Our girls are about the same age and size and have similar health issues and developmental delays. It is very good for both of the girls, they can play and interact. On some levels, both of them are very much toddlers and then on some levels, they are very delayed. It would be impossible to let Samantha play with a “normal” 20 month old. She would get run over.

The other thing that is funny, if she stays small and baby like as she turns into a toddler, prople look at you like you are out of your mind for disiplining them. I can not tell you how many dirty looks I have gotten for talking to her like she is a toddler (she is)

February 19, 2006 at 1:55 pm #1911

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Sorry you had such a bad experience. I can relate though- the first (and only time) we went to Gymboree, Seth spit up on the mat. Luckily, DH was with me to play with him while I went to the restroom to get paper towels to clean up. He also got sick after the session so we just never went back. He had a wonderful time though so I am thinking we may tray again now that he is older but we are waiting until after the flu/cold season.

February 19, 2006 at 4:05 pm #1916

hellbennt
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here ya go

Dallas / Fort Worth
DFW Babywearers
DFW Babywearing is for families who live in the Dallas – Ft. Worth area and carry their babies in slings, wraps, or other carriers, or who would like to learn more about baby wearing. This is a place to learn about types of baby carriers, how to use them, and to meet other moms (and dads) who can help you learn how to use your sling, wrap, pouch, mei tai, podegi or rebozo. Regular meetings will be planned and announced on the Yahoo list. Families in Dallas, Fort Worth, and the surrounding area are welcome.
Marni Matyus
[email protected]
http://www.dfwbabywearing.com

Denton
Babywearing Help – Free
Denton Attachment Parenting Group
A group for parents who are “attachment parenting” and their children. There is no designated age range for participation in the group. Playgroup meets on Mondays at 11:00 am. Sign up with Yahoo! Groups to be notified of our next meeting place. Contacts: Gina Varrichio, [email protected] and Debi Rogers [email protected].
Gina Varrichio
Phone: 940-591-0067
[email protected]
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/dentonap

February 21, 2006 at 12:07 am #2056

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I feel for you. I am so sick of seeing fat, healthy babies and having everyone ask me what’s wrong with Gabriel and was he premature? I have a friend whose baby was sleeping through the night at three months and I find it hard to even face her. It will get better…hopefully sonner rather than later. Hang in there!!!

February 21, 2006 at 12:42 am #2059

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Emmy wrote: I feel for you. I am so sick of seeing fat, healthy babies and having everyone ask me what’s wrong with Gabriel and was he premature? I have a friend whose baby was sleeping through the night at three months and I find it hard to even face her. It will get better…hopefully sonner rather than later. Hang in there!!!

Hey, just wanted to let it be known that just because a baby looks fat and healthy does not mean it is, Aidan is HUGE (9 weeks old 15 lbs) but he also has very bad silent reflux, and does not eat much, (as you read in my other post) I have no idea where all the weight is coming from.I know that when you read this the fact that he does not eat very much yet is that big will puzzle you, trust me trying to figure it out drives me nuts!My cousin also has a little girl who is very chunky and she also has silent reflux. It is a thousand times harder to get dr’s to listen to you that they are not eating well and going 10 hours on 1.5 ounces when you’re holding a super chubby baby who looks like he downs 8 ounce bottles at every feeding!!
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