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I truly understand what you’re saying. Sometimes foster care is the worst place a baby can be. If you report them he will probably be taken from them due to the drug use.
Hmmm….maybe you could have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her that the daycare providers are required by law to report suspcions of child abuse, and that she needs to make some changes to prevent that from happening once he’s out of your care and in public daycare.
Why does she think tylenol makes him sleep better? Tylenol does not cause sleepiness as far as I know. (Don’t ever tell her about Benadryl!
)Is it possible that he has a medical condition that causes him to be so hungry and thin? Maybe you could suggest that she talk to his doctor about a higher calorie formula.
with the state of foster care nowadays, I would guess they might not take the baby away from his mother/father…they would want to help rehabilitate the mother/parents- parenting classes, counseling, etc. also, they try & place the child with relatives first, before to going to ‘strangers’/foster parents. that’s my state, FL and we’re AWFUL
(remember the missing girl in foster care that made national news?)when I have DCF (dept of children & families) involved with a child at my school, I push & push for services for the child- that’s me, though, always the advocate…but seriously, like anything else, if no one knows to do this then perhaps the child wouldn’t get services…so I take down the case worker’s info & follow through and talk to supervisors, etc. I say that i KNOW the child is ENTITLED by the STATE to receive services & I want to make sure the child gets everything s/he can…
ok I’m rambling…
Hopefully that would be the case, Laura…that he would be placed with relatives or they would work with them to try and help them “parent” better. I am getting so sick over this…I know I need to do something but I am just so scared of it all.
He is such a sweet little boy and I love him dearly. I do not want to see him taken away but they have to treat him better…I believe they are just taking being a parent too lightly and not thinking of what is his best interest. I have to do something. Thanks for all the input and encouragement! What would I do without you ladies!1mommy, everyone has great suggestions. I think I would bawl my eyes out if I had to watch the poor little guy gulp his food down like that
. I don’t have the heart to see any kind of abuse with little, innocent kiddies. No matter if it’s physical, mental or just neglect. I would definitely make the call. The suggestion of getting in touch with the pediatrician is also great. Just wanted to wish you luck and please do keep us updated. Wow,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would, just me, definately say something or do something rather but that’s easy for me to say. I worked at a daycare and I remember one little boy came in with a spatula mark on his tushy
We found it changing his diaper. It makes me literally gag just thinking about it
Anyway, all this to say that he’s lucky he has a loving caregiver looking out for him. His parents don’t seem to be doing such a steller(sp?) job of that. I’ll be thinking of you, I’m sure you’ll do what you think is best for him. 
No matter what happens though remember that you’re doing what’s best for him. No matter how she twists it or makes you feel if you have a confrontation with her, it’s THEIR fault they’re not taking care of their son better. I’ll say a prayer for this sweet little boyYikes! I would definately contact CPS or whatever it’s called in your state as well.
If anything, for the pot usage. That’s not a good environment for any child.
The small size, the apparent hunger, those could be signs of lack of parenting, or they could be normal.
We have a picture of my DD next to a friend of ours son…she was 6 months older than him, and he is BIGGER than her. But she has always been a peanut and always will be (as you can tell from my siggy pix I’m not a real big person!) because of her genes…he was 10lbs when he was born, and has always been off the charts and always will be because of his genes.
If she’s on WIC then she may be rationing his formula to make it last as long as possible. Then again, she may be doing it so that she can buy the formula with her WIC checks and sell it somewhere to pay for her pot…
I have friends that I’ve considered turning into CPS before…but I know that the system is so bogged down that it’d just get blown off and end up being a waste of time so I haven’t.
Good luck with your decision…it’s hard either way.
OMG!!!! Okay, so the mom just called me to talk about new changes that they have made over the weekend. They have taken away his bottle!!! I said oh, so I’ll just use the sippy cup for formula. She said, “no, we took away the formula too and we aren’t planning on introducing milk yet, so I will have to bring over more jars of baby food for this coming week”. He is only 11 months old!!!!!!!!!!!! WTH! I am furious!
It makes me think that maybe she is selling his formula online or something since she gets it for free through WIC. I will be talking to her about it on Tuesday…this is crazy! I am going to ask if she’s talked that decision over with his doctor bc thats really young to take away formula and he definitely needs milk if you aren’t doing formula! I can’t believe it!ok well I would feed that poor baby formula and I would even go as far as to feed that poor baby from a bottle at your house- for all you know it’s the only sense of comfort that baby has in his little life
if you can’t afford to pay for the few bottles the baby drinks at your house, then I would get some samples from your own ped’s office…that’s just me. Oooo I’m so angry FOR you
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