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Lori, I used to work as an assistant director at a day care. Our center started at 2 1/2. Very few of our 2 1/2 year olds were potty trained when they started. Our policy was that they couldn’t move into the “preschool” (3 year old) program until they were potty trained. We had a lot of kids that were well past 3 before they could move up. Usually, being told that they couldn’t go to the big boy/big girl room until they started using the potty was motivating enough.
Unfortunately, in my experience, most of the time when they start telling you that your child is ready to move up before you think they are ready, it has little to do with your child and a lot more to do with the fact that they want the space in that room for a new child. The director in the center where I worked did stuff like that all of the time. It was one of the reasons that I decided that I’d never be a good director and I should switch careers.
Personally, with a child that has had issues being reluctant to go in the past I think the idea of going cold turkey has a lot of potential hazards. It’s entirely possible that she’ll just start refusing to go and you’ll have a much bigger issue on your hands (like kidney infections or constipation). If she was 3 or older, I could understand the push, but I just don’t at 28 months.
I wouldnt push her if she is not ready. I wish that I had waited until my daughter was closer to 3 before we started toilet training. She seemed to be ready at about 22 months so we cold turkey with underwear and she was trained in about a week. A month after Tyler was born she started having several accidents a day and this has continued ever since, we have tried everything but nothing works. I wish I had of waited until she was more emotionally mature before starting. I have a friend who waited until her boy was almost 3 and he was trained in a couple of days, she said it was so easy. I know your situation is not the same as mine as the arrival of a baby (especially a reflux baby
) can upset toilet training, but I think if you push her you will make the overall process so much longer. Let her take her time, she will let you know when she is ready.Hi Lori – my pediatrician told me that you can start potty training them at 2 and they will be done when they are 3 or 3 1/2. Or, you can start potty training at 3 and they will be done when they are 3 or 3 1/2.
Bottom line – your dd has clearly stated she is not ready. Any parent who has pushed a kid who was not ready will tell you that the only result will be a much longer and painful process for all of you. That being said – the “cold turkey” method can work for a much older child who is perfectly capable of staying dry but lacks the motivation and will to interrupt what they are doing to use the bathroom I had one of these. But he was close to 3 1/2 when we tried this. We were lucky to have a daycare that had no diaper rules, and that moved kids up each September, so they stayed with their friends.
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