I learned my lesson

the irony of my having a picky/ difficult eater is not lost on me as i have just shed my forty pounds of baby weight (2 years after her birth) and am now in earnest working on the other 30 i shouldn’t have had when i got pregnant…honestly. i never thought it would be a problem. it is really quite scary.

It is a tough lesson to learn though…

sharon, out of my 9 kids—–only ONE was potty trained before 3. one of them was 4 before he was potty trained (he had some other problems at the time) i always say that i don’t believe in potty training.

Lisa – I agree with you totally. It’s funny but one of my sisters became a single mom at 19 yo (unplanned). When he was 3 1/2, she became a single mom yet again, also unplanned. After her kids were 1/2 grown she even admitted herself that she was probably not the best mom in the world & isn’t the best parent. Now that her oldest is 20 & the other is almost 17 & she was one of those moms that couldn’t wait for her kids to be 18 so they can finally get out of the house & pay their own way. Anyway, my point is that these 2 kids always ate well, slept well, pottytrained easily, etc. Without sounding overly religious on anyone, I think that GOD gives kids that need that extra help to parents that can help them & taken care of them the way they need to be taken care of. I am NOT saying that only unfit parents get the easy kids, only that more needy children goes to the best parents they can have.

Christine – I agree that we all have done things we never thought we would do. I NEVER thought that I would co-sleep. But as you are one of the old timers here & you know of the difficulty we had with Ashtyn sleeping, after 18 months of her NOT sleeping through the night no matter what we did……we decided to co-sleep so we could ALL finally get some sleep. Ashtyn is now almost 27 months & we co-sleep & it works for US. As far as potty training, I agree with Christine. When it was time, I got a potty chair & introduced Ashtyn to it & basically showed her how to sit on it & told her what it was for a few times until she got the idea. Sometimes, once or twice a day, she will tell me she has to pee & she will go. Other times, she won’t go near it for a couple days. Somedays I ask her if she has to pee on the potty & if she says no, then that’s it. I definitely don’t push it. She has led the way on everything else. She weaned herself off the bottle & formula at 11 1/2 months, etc, etc…..so I am sure this is another one of those things that she will do when she wants. As far as her eating…..it still isn’t the best but since she has been in group feeding therapy she has been doing better at times.

Sorry this is so long.

just wait until one of your kids get arrested….or you get called by the school counselor because your step-son put someone in a choke hold until they passed out……or you get called by the high school english teacher because your son made a really inappropriate poster for school……or when you get a call from the newspaper wanting your permission to publish what your son said when he was given a citation for skateboarding where he wasn’t supposed to (and he said he was working—instead of going to church)…or when you go to pick your son up early from seminary—-and he is sluffing class. just wait—–it gets more and more exciting. LOL!!LOL!!LOL!! if i printed cards they would have to say something like this: my child is an idiot—–please don’t judge me as a parent, i taught him better than this. if he survives the beating i am going to give him when we get home, he may grow up to be a parent……and paybacks are double. there are times you just have to think to yourself that in a few years these things will be really funny—and laugh at them now instead!

kevieb2006-2-5 22:22:50

Gina I second that. For everytime I raise my voice or scream at Alexis for something I think is so important at that moment. I look back when this sweet little girl comes right back to me sits in my lap flashes me a great big smile and hugs and kisses me. I realize what I screamed at her for was really stupid and she really did not deserve it. I too need to concentrate on learning on the innocence of a child.